March 17, 2012

Stubborn Possibilities

I'm not sure if I should call this a paradox (I even had a good name for it - "Ralph's Love Paradox". Too bad I can't use it). Anyway, I've noticed something about hopeless romantics.

It's always said in Twitter accounts, Tumblr blogs, and Facebook quotes that everyone should wait for the right time for love because sooner or later, love finds them. Sounds reasonable. Seems legit. However, some people want to search for their own love story because it's somehow sweeter that way. Now the question is, which is better - to wait or to search?

This is a bit depressing, depending on who you ask, but let's put this in a pessimistic point of view.

If a person waits for love then what if love never gets to that person in the end? Then they've just waited for nothing for all that time. If a person looks for love, what if they never search in the right places at the right moments, and end up not finding love at all? Dear god, being pessimistic sucks.

Optimistic people say that "true love will find a way" and leave it at that (because they're optimistic, duh!). Since there's no indicator, no icon, no popup notification that tells you if you've found true love, you'd have to find out if it really is true love whether it takes 3 months or 3 years.

So basically, the only way to deal with this is to never assume much but also never be pessimistic at all. It's like saying "I'd like to see where this is going" rather than saying "She's/He's the one!" (except it doesn't sound like you're talking about a transgender) and "Oh this'll end badly as usual". It's best to not be overcome by emotions garnered from wanting that love story and be calm about everything.